Fountain pens are great–I love them so much. And they can also be surprisingly affordable, too. Not everyone can afford a ton of money on pocket-sized piece of art, so I thought I’d recommend three of my favorite pens that cost less than $40 (which I know is still a lot–I’ll have some suggestions for even cheaper pens at the end of the post).
One of the wonderful things about living in the future is the ability to find out about all sorts of things that can be purchased. This is also one of the terrible things about living in the future–because if you’re anything like me, your desires far outstrip your budget. But oh, it is fun to look and pretend that there’s no ceiling on one’s spending. (And this assumes, of course, that one takes care of living expenses and charitable donations first.)
So with that in mind, here are three things I’d buy if I had a swimming pool full of money.
Hello! I’m over at The Bias today talking about silencing tactics and how they’re used. Here’s a fairly lengthy excerpt from the first section–I hope you’ll click through to read the whole thing.
Silencing is a type of verbal harassment or intimidation intended to distract, minimize, or discourage you from speaking out. The ultimate goal is to control the larger conversation by ensuring that not all voices are heard or are able to speak.
Silencing is not:
- Moderated or deleted comments
- Refusal to engage
- Reporting harassment or code of conduct violations
These tactics are most often deployed by members of dominant groups to quash dissent.
However, just as troublingly, they are also used to establish hierarchies at the intersections of different marginalizations and oppressions and it is this use of silencing tactics that I’ll be focusing on here.
I want to be very clear: I am not talking about calling out someone with more privilege . I am talking specifically about the growing tendency of marginalized people using these tactics against each other.
There is a scarcity mindset when it comes to visibility and authority that I believe works against the interests of marginalized and oppressed people and communities.
This scarcity mindset not only inhibits participation, but I also believe it actively inhibits growth. By making the conversation larger, we can encourage new voices and new modes of being–but not if we intentionally limit ourselves.
As Joanna Russ says in How To Suppress Women’s Writing, the most interesting stuff is on the margins: “…growth only occurs at the edges of something […] But to even see the peripheries, it seems, you have to be on them, or by an act of re-vision, place yourself there.” (Russ 132)
There’s a new post at The Bias! Today Annalee tackles the sticky subject of Fundraising, Activism, and Who Gets Paid.
There’s a thing about feminist activism. Our years of hard work have made it at least sometimes embarrassing to be caught discriminating against women, but the people who’ve built our culture of exclusion and discrimination are still not interested in giving up their power. Nor are they interested in changing the sexist practices they both benefit from and enjoy. They are happy to throw money at people who will tell them it’s not their fault–that it’s a ‘pipeline problem’ or that ‘women don’t ask’ or that we need to ‘lean in.’ For them, cash is cheap.
This creates an environment where it is very easy for people to trade on the unpaid work of feminist activists while at the same time undermining us for a cash reward. The people who move the needle on these issues are the ones telling uncomfortable truths–usually without getting paid for the work. By making meaningful progress, we make room for others to sweep in behind us and set up shop on the ground we’ve gained; to pass themselves off as the kinder, more palatable alternative to women who actually get things done.
Many of the people who do this don’t even realize they’re appropriating other people’s labor. They often don’t know the space well enough to know that their proposal will be ineffective or actively harmful. But whatever their intentions, their watered-down activism is a form of modern-day simony. It offers donors a chance to feel good about themselves and brag about their feminist credentials without meaningfully changing their behavior or interrogating their own role in our industry’s toxicity.
I promised a couple of weeks ago to share how I use a Bullet Journal. I want to emphasize that this is how I do it and what’s currently working for me–what works for you might be something completely different. Everyone’s brain–and life–is a little bit different and it would be ridiculous to expect one solution to work for everyone.